Blog Entry
Ensuring Proper Etiquette
April 15 2026I was hesitant to write about this topic because there is such a wealth of information available out there on proper etiquette when it comes to approaching and working with a Pro-Domme. It seems lazy to Me that anyone would attempt to begin a dynamic without doing their research first.
Over time in this industry, however, I realized that while there are certainly commonalities on how most Dommes prefer to be approached, there are also some major differences specific to each personality.
Assuming you are here because you are interested in Me, I am going to cover the basics to ensure that you are able to not only catch My attention, but receive a response. If your approach pleases Me, you may even be graced with My time.
This is your first opportunity to prove to Me that you are capable of following basic instruction. I am absolutely paying attention to whether you can obey simple commands and respect My time and boundaries. If you fail here, we will not be meeting.
For those of you who already have an established dynamic with Me, take this as an opportunity to brush up on your skills and prove to Me that you are continuing to sharpen and better yourself for Me. As you know, I am always seeking your improvement. Laziness is one of the quickest ways to lose My attention.
The first step to ensuring a positive first impression is to do your research. I’ve taken a lot of time and effort curating My website to reflect My style and attract the right kind of submissive for Me. Do not waste my My time or yours by approaching Me without first learning about Me. Follow My social media accounts. Pay attention to the types of posts I make, My preferences, My personal style and see if it vibes with you. The last thing I want to feel is that you are approaching several different Dommes, just “shooting your shot” to see who will respond. Make Me feel as if you’ve carefully and thoughtfully selected Me. I take a lot of pride and put forth a lot of energy into My clients and expect the same in return.
When you have decided that you want to serve Me, follow the correct protocol. For Goddess sake, do NOT text Me or message Me via Instagram or Twitter! A phone call will receive an automatic block. Go through My website and submit your screening by clicking the “Apply to Serve” button. Again, I have taken a lot of time ensuring that the process is streamlined for both parties.
Once screening is complete, you will receive an email from Me. Here is where your communication skills are very important. Please bear in mind that I am extremely busy. I have a full schedule and life outside of your emails. Do not belabor the process by asking questions I have answered on My website.
I expect you to address Me by My honorifics. I get really annoyed when people call Me Mistress because that is NOT My title. Madame or Madame Jasper is the only way you should ever address Me unless I specify otherwise.
Have a timeframe in mind for when you want to book and how long. While I can be quick to respond, I am also quick to move on if it becomes clear to Me you have not considered your schedule and are not serious about being ready to book.
If you are brand new or have very unique requests or circumstances, I am considerate of the fact that we may need extra communication as we navigate your individual needs. It is very important to Me that you feel seen, heard and safe through this process. I have a fairly in depth pre-negotiation questionnaire I have all new clients fill out. If you need clarity or discussion beyond that, I am happy to accommodate you.
Do not mistake My consideration for weakness though. It is not an excuse to draw out conversations or engage in explicit messaging. If I feel you are taking advantage of My generosity, I will provide a warning. If it continues, I will end our communication.
When we do have our first session, you will find that while I am very warm and sensual, I do have a strict and sadistic side. My benevolence is balanced by a sharp cruelty that can hit suddenly if you get out of line.
I adore keeping My submissives on their toes. I expect growth from anyone who wishes to serve Me. I do not tolerate laziness or brats. I need to know you are committed to becoming the best version of yourself for Me.
During our session, communication is vital to your success. If you are unsure, ask. I dislike an overly-reserved or stoic sub. I want you to express your desires, fears, boundaries and successes. Your experience is important to Me, but My desires should be paramount to you.
I always want to ensure your trust in My care as a Domina, and in turn, I must be able to trust you. The foundation for that is built upon honesty and openness with each other. There is no need to feel shame or embarrassment for any of your cravings, inclinations or curiosities. Trust Me, I have likely heard it, and if I haven’t, I definitely want to. I hold your kinky desires with the utmost reverence. No matter how strange you may feel it is, I am not judging you for that.
I am judging you for your character when you are with Me. How do you behave? How do you listen and communicate? Are you giving Me your best?
Trust in My expertise. While I want to hear your thoughts, desires and interests, once you have expressed them, it is your job to let go and allow Me to take over. I will consider everything you tell Me, and decide what is best. Again, trust is the cornerstone of our play. When you let yourself release into the experience, free of expectations, you will feel the bliss of total surrender.
It is not uncommon for My submissives to unlock new areas of craving or devotion. By giving yourself over to the journey and maintaining an open mind, deep exploration can happen. Let go and let Me take control. It’s simple, but not always easy.
While tips and gifts are never expected, they are a nice way to ensure you stand out above the crowd. I value thoughtfulness. I understand that everyone’s financial situation is different so there is no need to give beyond your comfort level. It’s the gesture that leaves an impression on Me. If you want to provide outside of physical gifts or money, pay attention to Me. Think of ways you can help Me or make My life easier. If you wish to serve than prove it. Serve Me by anticipating My needs before I do. Perhaps you notice something in My dungeon needs attention and offer to fix it. Maybe you offer to clean for Me. There are many ways to show Me you are thinking of Me.
Finally, I am not looking for clients who are here to get off and move on. I am seeking dedicated submissives who desire to deepen with Me into a transformative power dynamic. I need more from you than basic obedience. Anyone can do that. I crave an intimate exchange of devotion, depth and discovery. Your willingness to expand with Me determines just how far we can go.
I care deeply about those I work with. I can be very loving and nurturing, but that is tempered with a wickedly savage mind. My kindness is not weakness. My power reigns supreme in My realm and should you forget, I am always happy to help you remember just who you have entered an agreement with.
